Today, inspired by Top Ten Tuesday, I figured I'd talk about some of the traits I like best in characters--and also in real life people, haha. These traits probably won't come as a surprise; you can see them in these posts about my favorite male and female characters or in this more recent Tumblr list of favorites. These qualities do tend to differ a little based on gender--maybe because I pick female characters I want to be like and male characters I'd want to date? I'm not sure. But for this post, I'm going to be splitting things up as such. Enjoy!
Soft: One of the major features of the male characters I love best is that they are soft. I am not interested in any Alpha Male types. Not here, no sirree! I want sweethearts whom I feel safe being around. I want boys who respect other people, who are gentle, loyal, and trustworthy, who have self-control They are adorable and good. They can also be incredibly powerful, but they use that power with wisdom and compassion, letting their softness guide them. See: Vision from Marvel, Peeta Mellark from The Hunger Games, Newt Scamander from the Wizarding World, Finn from Star Wars.
One of my pet peeves is an ableist microaggression that I've talked about before: offering unsolicited medical advice to chronically ill people, especially when you're not a medical professional. This is a problem for a few different reasons.
First, we chronically ill people have to be able to reach a place of acceptance. We have to face the fact that our lives have changed. We have to do our best to plan for a future where our illnesses continue to exist and may even worsen, as this is often the reality. We can't waste all our time and energy putting our lives on hold to search for a magical cure. (Unless we're also medical researchers.) When people are constantly throwing ideas at us for how to "fix" our chronic illnesses, it can be really hard to move on. I know that you're trying to offer us hope, to keep us from "giving up," but that's not how this works. That's not what we need. Acceptance is really the key.
Second, it assumes that we aren't already aware of the existing possibilities for treatments. It assumes that we don't know our own body, our own illnesses, that we don't have professionals we're working with on this, that if we just tried harder we could make this whole problem go away. And that's offensive and untrue. People with chronic illnesses tend to be quite familiar with the research, probably much more than you are. And the solutions you offer us? They're usually either things we've already tried or things that we're pretty darn sure are quackery. So give it a rest, all right?
Hey friends! Today, inspired by a Top Ten Tuesday prompt, I'm going to share my thoughts on some recent cover redesigns for YA books.
Publishers do redesigns, usually partway through a series, when they feel that the current design doesn't properly engage the market they want. This is often the bane of readers' existences, because you can end up buying different cover styles for books in the same series--and that's not as pretty-looking! (But remember, in traditional publishing, authors don't have a lot of say about the cover, so don't rag on them about it.)
I've found that, most of the time, I don't actually like cover redesigns as much as the originals. But we'll see what turns up today!
The Girl of Fire and Thorns
From following bookish people on Twitter (like the ones I recommended last week), I've learned a lot about the interactions authors have with other people. I've learned what some of the etiquette rules are for those interactions. So today I thought I'd share some of those rules, looking at reader to author, author to reader, agent to author, and author to agent dos and don'ts. This will give you an idea of what to expect from yourself and others!
Reader to Author
Hey friends! It's been a good long while since I shared my recommendations for who to follow on social media. Way back when this blog was just beginning, I thought that the best way to do that was to list everyone I was following. But you know what? All anyone would have to do if they wanted to see that is look at who I'm following on my profiles. (And you can do that if you'd like to!)
So instead, I'm going to share a handful of recommendations from each social media platform I'm on: the people I most enjoy following and why. This was hard to narrow down on some platforms, so if I follow you and I didn't list you here, please feel free to promote yourself in the comments! I have a lot of people I'm friendly with online--after all, social media is most of my chronically ill social life. For now, check these people out!
Recently, I decided for the sake of time to cut my Facebook use way back. These days, other social media platforms are more popular, interesting, and helpful. So on Facebook right now, I pretty much just follow people I know IRL and local news. I do have one recommendation from the platform, though:
Whatever social media platform you're on, I recommend following SparkNotes (they're pretty much on every platform) for hilarious and clever content about classic English literature. This famous purveyor of literature study guides does a fantastic job at making social media fun!
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