Today, inspired by Top Ten Tuesday, I figured I'd talk about some of the traits I like best in characters--and also in real life people, haha. These traits probably won't come as a surprise; you can see them in these posts about my favorite male and female characters or in this more recent Tumblr list of favorites. These qualities do tend to differ a little based on gender--maybe because I pick female characters I want to be like and male characters I'd want to date? I'm not sure. But for this post, I'm going to be splitting things up as such. Enjoy!
Soft: One of the major features of the male characters I love best is that they are soft. I am not interested in any Alpha Male types. Not here, no sirree! I want sweethearts whom I feel safe being around. I want boys who respect other people, who are gentle, loyal, and trustworthy, who have self-control They are adorable and good. They can also be incredibly powerful, but they use that power with wisdom and compassion, letting their softness guide them. See: Vision from Marvel, Peeta Mellark from The Hunger Games, Newt Scamander from the Wizarding World, Finn from Star Wars.
Intelligent/Sarcastic: Even though I like them soft, I also like them to have a little verve, perhaps a sharp mind or a good sassy sense of humor. It'd be nice to be with a guy who could stand up to me, intellectually speaking--and I always like a guy who makes me laugh. See: Vision from Marvel, Data Soong from Star Trek (actually, most android or AI characters), Peeta Mellark from The Hunger Games, the Doctor from Doctor Who, Obi-Wan Kenobi from Star Wars,
Willing to Learn: In male characters, this often comes off as awkwardness (which is endearing in its own right), but the trait beneath it that I truly love is the willingness to learn. I think it's extremely important to be able to recognize how much knowledge there is out there and how little of it each of it has. It's important to always be growing and seeking more--and it's important to be humble! You're more likely to treat others with respect when you're willing to learn from them. These characters also tend to have a beautiful sense of wonder that I admire. Finally, this willingness to learn helps create a relationship that's more balanced and equal; it gives my disabled self something to offer. 😉See: Vision from Marvel, Newt Scamander from the Wizarding World, Finn from Star Wars., Data Soong from Star Trek.
Passionate: This is probably the trait that I find most attractive in guys, in both real life and fiction. I like a guy who cares.. I want him to care about his family, his friends, humanity as a whole. (I'd love for him to care about me. 😉) I'm drawn towards guys with purpose to their lives and a set of values they're devoted to. I'm a pretty passionate person myself, so with this quality, my guy and I would each have our own interests to chase after--and we could also take on the world together, fighting for what's right as partners. (I love those kinds of couples!) See: Vision, Steve Rogers, and T'Challa from Marvel, Peeta Mellark from The Hunger Games, Newt Scamander from the Wizarding World, the Doctor from Doctor Who (especially the Ninth Doctor), Obi-Wan Kenobi from Star Wars, etc.
Feminine: Though of course not all women are interested in traditionally "feminine" things, and that's fine, I tend to be most interested in female characters who are. This is because I myself am pretty feminine. I like to see that represented as a strength and a positive instead of a negative weakness. Whether it's through deep compassion, family loyalty, an interest in romance, dresses, and flowers, or something else, I like to see my girls being feminine. See: Wanda Maximoff from Marvel. Padme Amidala from Star Wars, Rose Tyler and Clara Oswald from Doctor Who.
Clever/Sarcastic: Now that I'm looking at it, there's a lot more crossover between the genders with these traits than I thought. The differences are mostly in how I approach it (love interest vs. self) and how guys/girls tend to be socialized. Anyway, I also like it when female characters are clever and snarky and take no crap, though in fiction, that tends to be to the detriment of their femininity. I want more girls who are girly and sarcastic in stories! Take note, fellow writers. See: Carol Danvers and Michelle Jones from Marvel, Kat Stratford from 10 Things I Hate About You, Minerva McGonagall from the Wizarding World.
Powerful: I am all about the girl power, especially when it's not just physical power. Physical power is traditionally seen as "masculine," and like I said, I'm drawn towards depictions of femininity being used for good--but also, I'm disabled, so. 🤷♀️ I love to see female characters showing how fierce and influential they can be using psychic powers, magic, intelligence, compassion, etc. See: Wanda Maximoff and Carol Danvers from Marvel, Padme Amidala from Star Wars, Minerva McGonagall and Hermione Granger from the Wizarding World, Rose Tyler from Doctor Who, Lucero-Elisa de Riqueza from The Girl of Fire and Thorns, etc.
Passionate: Just like with the guys, I love it when female characters are passionate about their lives. I love it when they can be emotional without it being a negative--because I'm super emotional and, like I said, I care. I'm tired of being ashamed of that! I want to see women caring about their families, caring about friends and lovers, caring about a career or personal interest like Carol with flying or Padme with government. Most of all, I adore female characters who stand up for what's right and who are unfailingly passionate about making the world a better place. See: Wanda Maximoff and Carol Danvers from Marvel, Padme Amidala from Star Wars, Minerva McGonagall and Hermione Granger from the Wizarding World, Rose Tyler and Clara Oswald from Doctor Who, etc.
That's the list! Think about your own favorite characters (and people), and tell me: what character traits do you like the most? I'll be back next week with an "on this day in my history."
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