Hi! and welcome back. There are going to be less rules today because I was at home for Labor Day weekend, but hopefully you'll still enjoy what I've got. (You can review last week's post here.)
Rule #16: Schools have secrets.
In my search for a new room to move to, I discovered that there are these special suites in one of the dorm halls. My closest friend so far here (a sophomore) is in one and invited me to move into one of the empty bedrooms. The suite has three separate bedrooms, a bathroom, a living room, and a kitchen area. It's wonderful.
And guess what? The school doesn't advertise these SuperSuites. It's really hard to find on the website (I couldn't find it; my SuperMom did), and they never show it on tours. The only way in is if you know someone in the suites already.
So schools have secrets, little things they don't tell you about You have to be in the in to find them. Don't be afraid to look!
Rule #17: If you're feeling down, talk to a friend about their problems.
I've been pretty depressed since I got to college. I felt out of place and totally done with life. But then I got into a conversation with one of my new friends, and she had actual normal problems: boys and friends and public embarrassment and even a true past tragedy. And it made me feel better for a while, first, because I had something to focus on, second, because her problems made sense and were things I thought I could help with, and third, because it reminded me I had no real reason to be so apathetically antipathic. I recommend giving it a go yourself if you need to.
Rule #18: Show respect for others.
The less respect you show, the less respect everyone is going to give you. It'll start with the quiet ones, the ones who can see everything. But eventually, it'll move out until everyone knows you're a jerk. This means, boys, stop talking about girls' butts in the hallway. Stop cussing for no reason. Stop acting like jerks. Girls, same to you. Thank you.
Rule #19: There's no place like home.
I'll admit I wasn't one of those people all eager to leave home in the first place. I like my hometown, and I was happy with my life most the time there. But I had my moments. So when I came home for Labor Day, I realized that a bunch of stuff I thought I'd be glad to leave behind I was actually happy to see. I'd missed screaming children in church and my brother yelling at everyone and calling them "punk." I still don't miss the pee on the toilet seat. But home is a good place to be, and after being away for a while, it's even nicer.
Rule #20: Give it some time.
I hated when people said this. I've actually hated college since I first started. I was out of place, I was alone, my classes bored me, and I didn't even know who I was in terms of the community. But a funny thing happened on the first day of the third week--I suddenly felt okay. The campus was familiar. I knew some faces. I was comfortable and settled in and suddenly able to open up and talk to people.
So it turns out those people are right. You just need some time to get through it.
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