(To be fair, there's a difference between criticism and cruelty, and unfortunately, more often than not, I've received cruelty. But it affects the way I react to genuine criticism, too.)
Basically, in day to day life, I tend to internalize criticism in an unhealthy way, or to get kind of petty (and jealous). It's an ongoing problem, but I'm working on it.
When it comes to talking about my writing, however, I'm actually pretty good at taking critique. That seems illogical, right? Writing is my greatest passion and the most important thing in the world to me. You'd think it'd be the most sensitive topic: but see, that's actually why I'm better at taking critique there. To be fair, I wasn't prepared the first time I got critique, which is how I ended up deleting the first novel I ever wrote, but after that, I knew what I was going up against. As soon as I started sending out to people, I was prepared.
I've gotten lots of critique that's upset me. When I started sending out, I got some flack for being as young as I was, which ticked me off. That's not genuine critique, so I had a right to be angry, I think.
I also, as you all know from a recent post, have readers who help critique me, and a lot of the time, that stuff hurts my heart. But what upsets me then usually isn't the getting critiqued part. I don't really take it personally; I'm good at refraining from calling myself a "bad writer" for having made a mistake. What actually makes me upset is that I'm scared I won't be able to figure out how in the heck to fix the points they made. I've been known to sit at the dinner table crying because someone made a very good point about something illogical in my work, and I don't know how to take care of the problem--but I always find a solution eventually, and as soon as I do, I'm not upset anymore. Actually, I'm usually kind of excited. More writing! Yay!
What are your experiences with taking critique?
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