I think everyone, in their lives, will end up being asked a bunch of the same questions by well-meaning (or confused) people over and over again. Some are pretty common for certain life phases (i.e. college). Others, though... others are kind of unique. When these questions relate to stereotypes and other false beliefs that target marginalized groups, they're known as "microaggressions," small forms of prejudiced speech that "other" the targeted person and reinforce existing societal inequalities.
So today I'm sharing a bunch of questions, some of which are microaggressions, that I get way too often thanks to various aspects of my identity.
"Have I heard of you?"
"What's your backup career?"
"Why don't you self-publish?"
"Oh, I saw Book of Mormon on Broadway once! It was hilarious."
"Don't you feel sexually repressed?"
"How could you possibly not drink alcohol/drink coffee/have sex?"
"How many husbands do you have? How many wives does your dad have? How many siblings do you have? How many kids do you have?"
"Shouldn't you be married by now?"
"Are you PMSing?"
"Do you have daddy issues?"
"Why are you so bitter?"
"I like it when girls wear skirts like in the good old days!"
"When girls wear clothes like that, they make boys have bad thoughts."
"Nice guys finish last. Why do girls date jerks all the time? Getting friendzoned is the worst."
"Why are you looking at yourself in the mirror? You shouldn't worry. You look fine!"
Mental Illness Stuff
"Are you sure you're not overreacting about this? You know, because of your OCD?"
"Oh, she just doesn't like people. Teenagers, you know!"
"Oh, it's just because her OCD is bothering her."
"I think your antidepressants are making you different."
"If you're OCD, why is your house so messy?"
"Oh, I invited my friend over to see your [emotional support] cat because I figured she needed emotional support!"
"Why do you have to be so negative? If you think positive, I'm sure it'll fix your illness."
"Your brother is autistic? Is there something wrong with you too?"
"But you don't look disabled!"
"What do you mean you can't go anywhere? You've got two perfectly good legs!"
"I read in the newspaper about this disabled person who climbed a mountain/ran a 5K/cured cancer/saved the world from aliens! So it doesn't really matter that you're disabled."
"Once I got a tooth pulled, and I didn't complain about it! Why do you complain so much about your pain?"
"It's a good thing that you're disabled! It means you provide great service opportunities for people! If we couldn't serve, we'd all go to hell!"
"I bet if you only ate fruits and vegetables/went gluten-free/prayed to Jesus/tried this random supplement/exercised more/went lactose-free/tried acupuncture/lived on a llama farm on the moon you'd be cured in no time!"
I hope that gives you some perspective into my life and into some experiences you might not have yourself. :) What are some things that you hear too often?
Thanks for being here, and I will see you next time for a speedlinking post.
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